What will others say? Opinions- does it really matter?

My dearest reader, hope you are doing well. Break a smile before you read today's blog. 

Not everyone is marshmallow- heart like me. People also have thick skin and others opinions do not really matter to them. This one is for those who have hard exterior but are soft on the insides. Especially when it's to do with others opinions. 

We are all humans with enough capacity to have opinions. The fact is that it is totally normal to have an opinion about everything around you. It may be right or it may be wrong because opinions are merely a view or judgement of a person which is not necessarily based on a fact or knowledge. 

Certain things I write here are also my opinion. People may agree or may not. It is completely based on each individuals perception on every aspect. Be it dressing, eating, body type, religion, education, money, lifestyle or anything. Either with or without someone's opinion life goes on. 

What matters is how your opinion has an impact on someone else. Tongue has no blades, tongue is not made of bones but it can generate words that can break someones heart, it can break someones esteem. 

Everyone is on a journey. Some are moving forward and get results!! bam!bam!bam!!

But there are alot of us caught up with just trying to survive and keeping our heads over water. It does not mean we are not trying. It simply means our journey has more humps. Everyone has separate sets of priorities. 

Now just as I have an opinion about something else I also have an opinion about myself. This is one of the important things we have which decides our basic mindset. It decides how we basically feel about ourselves. We come across hundereds of people everyday, now does every opinion matter? Of course it does not but what we feel about ourselves projects on how we appear to everyone around us. 

The day I say I feel ugly, I actually may look as such as well. This ugly is the negative energy that I would emit to people around me. Now obviously someone cannot be happy around the clock and we dont have to. This is where the opinion of people important to us matters. A few kind words of kindness can have such an impact on someones mood and day. No one feels great on daily basis. No one has their life all figured and in this global pandemic most of us are struggling. 

Away from a loved one, lost a loved one, out of job. I am away from my partner and will meet later than planned but there is someone who lost their loved one. Someone maybe out of job while someone has lost their dream house. Some don't even have enough grocery while someone has no food at all. Someone has food, water, money clothing and everything but have a mental war going on in their minds- depression/bipolar/schizophrenic. 

From today the least important thing in our lives should be another persons opinion. Words and people who surround us and help us grow and makes us better people are who matters the most. Its isnt necessary we need another person for this as well. We can be our own cheer squad because yet again everyone around you be it a baby or an old grandma they are all on their own journeys. It is extremely easy to recognize the unhealthy/toxic opinions. Basically those ones that just makes you feel awful. You know yourself well. You know how much you are trying, how much you're working hard. You know your journey and how much heart and soul you've poured into creating a lifestyle. If someone says a word that would strike on your self respect, your morale and self esteem then recognize it as toxic. 

• You're not good
• You shouldn't even try
• You can't do it
• You won't be able to do it 
• You look bad 
• Pig/cow/buffalo/whale/tank/drum 
• No, not you. 
• You're not good enough

There's so many more things that can be added to it. Once we have recognized these in its context as unhealthy it is good to talk about it to someone close to you, or have a journel and write about it. If you are not good with words then just lay out all the facts about yourself. You will soon see that the opinion of someone else does not really matter. Example; if you do work hard and study and one day on phone your dad says, you are so lazy. 

Lay out the fact--> you have been studying 5 hours daily--> now this opinion was completely baseless and toxic even it's from a family member. It would feel good to confront people trying to prove them wrong but if we show little bit of patience imagine how amazing it would feel when you slap them(metaphorically) with your results. 

Like the famous quote states, "work hard in silence and let your results make the noise". 

I know its hard but it isn't impossible. It's a lifestyle change to help our mental health, to help us grow as a person who fulfills their ambitions. 

Our ambitions are substantially more valuable than a cheap opinion. 

Don't let that two seconds of opinion from any toxic relationship or a toxic human ruin what you have been working on from weeks/months/years. No one has a radar around you to see what you do 24/7. Only you know what you have been up to. Hence, only your evaluation about your ownself matters. Others do not know your path but you do. You know what you are and you know your self worth. You know what you have and what you lack. You know your abilities. You are NOT weak if you acknowledge your weaknesses. Because just like our immune system, before removing any pathogen it has to first RECOGNIZE THEM. Keep grinding and keep smiling! You and I can do whatever we put our mind and heart to.